There’s no doubt, food is a social activity and it is the connection point for friends and family alike.
When you have a busy social calendar, it can be tricky to keep your health and weight management goals at the forefront of your mind.
Here are a few of our go-to tips for maintaining the social aspect of food - AND avoiding unwanted kilos and negative health impacts that dining out can bring to the table.
1. Set your own personal rules and stick to them like glue. Work out what you consider a good “Spend” of your energy and nutrition bank account
I personally have a rule that I won't waste my “account” on fried foods, battered foods, or pastry - although it can look appealing, I always feel uncomfortable afterward, so to me, these are a waste - when I could be blowing my “allowance” on something that truly makes my heart sing.
2. Set up your list of things you simply DON'T DO and do an inventory of the foods that are SPECIAL to you and worthy of your spending! When you’re out at a restaurant, look at the menu and use your personal rules to guide your choices
- The key here is NO ONE cares about your food as much as you think they do -
- The second suggestion is - People are too worried about themselves to get too hung up on what you are doing
- The third key - It's your body, you get to choose. Don't let “well-meaning” friends and family try to convince you that you should be doing something different. Don't feel pressured by “oh come on, have some fun” generally this comes from a place of love - but can also be laced with other intentions like testing your will or seeing if “this time you do really mean to change”
Set up your personal rules list of foods you do splurge on, and a firm idea of how much alcohol you intend on having each week.
Your overall level of how strictly you stick to your rules is an indication of your long term success.
If you are in a stage where continual weight loss and health improvement is your goal - you need to stick to your rules about 90% of the time - this would equate to about 1 meal out of the 21 you have each week where you know you’re going to include those foods you know are on the “occasional” list
Once you reach your goal and you are happy with your health and your form - you can start to relax carefully, but monitor the changes.
1. Don't use the scales for this - use your waist measurement - Measure your waist every couple of weeks at any stage of your journey and you will get the feedback you need to then know what you need to do with your food.
2. Eating out is fun - but it's not a license to go crazy - Just because you’re not at home.
Most restaurants are offering food that would suit someone who eats out a lot and is really just looking for the experience of the service, the social aspect of dining out - without 1000 extra calories at the same time.
3. Don't be shy to ask for things to be done how you like them - If the dish you really want has ticked every box, but it comes with white pasta or mashed potato - ask for a swap to sweet potato or something similar, or get them to omit the starch from the dish.
Generally, if it arrives on your plate it will be eaten so avoid this trap by asking things that are not on your RULES LIST before they come out of the kitchen.
Enjoy the company you are with, the experience of having someone else prepare your meal and wash up - don't get so hung up on the ACTUAL meal, and you will win every time.
Jacqui Lewis,
BHSc Nutritional and Dietetic Medicine